“Sex and a cocktail: they both lasted about as long, had the same effect, and amounted to about the same thing.” – D. H. Lawrence, Lady Chatterley’s Lover
Comparison. you all may have heard about it so many times but the word comparison hold different potential to different people. Try to put this word in emotion; the feeling of love. It’s true that love can happen not just once but as many times as it is to be as nobody knows how many times you can find it and how many times people can make you feel less vulnerable and more joyful but the difference between all of the joy just comes from one person. It doesn’t matter if that person is not in your life or is he/she is alive or not. Some people assume that it is unreplaceable but that’s not true at least to come extend.
The first person have set the bars so high that sometimes the good ones who try to fit in left behind. They try harder and harder to be in the shoes or in the black silk Linen which was once wore by the first lady to get inside of it just to be felt good for not just for oneself but for the person one desires to be with it but is just that it? just to be inside of the same room or just to wear cloths where the fragrance of the skin still lies in it.
It’s not same for you but it is same for the person who is getting you in it. You are doing it for the first time not him/her and you have that constant anxiety of being compared and just to be surrounded by questions that you will never fit in and now there are secrets which people will whisper and you try to solve them but they are just the front door of the lobby not the back door exit of the other wing. The main person will try to protect you by hiding it but is it the protection-security you need? or it’s just makes you more curious?
You don’t need to fit in or to be accepted by most of the companions. You just need to be just the way you are cause the potential person has accepted you or chosen you in the first place not because of the similarities but for the uniqueness you have inside and that is what he/she is lacking behind in their lives. That is the main reason they want you desperately.
“Be the standard of quality in this world where excellence is void and unexpected.”
― Louise Philippe Dulay